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November 7, 2018

From a Suitcase Lifestyle to Simple Living

How temporarily living with one suitcase can impact the rest of your life.

During my freshman year of high school, my family traveled around the world for eight months. We had decided to take off after we watched an episode of House Hunters International. It was a spontaneous decision, but we were committed. I prepared for the trip by enrolling in online school, starting a blog, learning about the first country we were going to, and finally… packing. I asked my mom what we were packing in, and she told me that we each had only a carry-on and backpack. All my clothes, personal possessions, school books, and supplies had to fit into those two bags for eight months. At first, I had a hard time believing that all my stuff would fit. But I soon started the process of deciding what was essential to bring and realized that it would not be so difficult after all.

After packing a minimal number of belongings, we departed. As I looked down through an airplane window at my hometown, I knew that I would not see any of my other possessions for a long time. Soon, I discovered that having less was not so hard. In the morning, instead of searching for half an hour through a closet stuffed with clothing, I wore whatever was clean. I may not have been the most trendy or stylish 14-year old in the world, but my clothes got the job done. As for schoolwork, I managed just fine without eight hundred different pens.

As our trip progressed, I fell more in love with living out of a carry-on. It was one of the most freeing things I had ever experienced. Whatever I did not need or could not carry, I had to get rid of. If I needed something new, I had to make sure I had space for it. If I did not, I let go of something else to make room for my new possession. I considered every addition to my small storage space deeply. To have to be so mindful of everything I owned was enlightening and revealing. It made me question what was truly important in my life.

Eight months later, I walked back into my room at home. Although I was happy to be home, I was overwhelmed. There was just too much stuff everywhere, and I wondered how I could ever use all of it. I simply trudged on, accepting that this was just what American life was destined to look like. I would graduate high school with all my stuff, go to college, spend the rest of my life paying off college debt, get a desk job so I could support myself and buy more stuff, get married, have kids, retire, and eventually pass away.

One day, when I was scrolling through films on Netflix, I settled on one called Minimalism: A Documentary About the Important Things. The images on the screen flicked before my eyes and excitement welled inside me as I learned about the concept of minimalism. I finished the documentary, ran upstairs to my room, and got rid of half of my clothes. Since that day, I have been a proponent of minimalism and all the benefits it offers.

To me, the word ‘minimalism’ essentially means living with only what is useful or brings you true joy. The lifestyle is not meant to make you suffer, in fact, it allows just the opposite—allowing you to fully appreciate what you have. It emphasizes on people over things, and this helps to improve relationships in all areas of your life. Most importantly, it has taught me that material things should not be the motivation for my life choices. 

Minimalism is a form of self-care. By not overwhelming yourself with useless clutter or striving to make more money so you can buy that clutter, you are giving yourself a break. 

You are not defined by the amount of stuff that you own.

October 25, 2018

Cultivating Values

The journey to evaluating and cultivating values does not have to be as daunting as it seems.

One year ago, I had no clear values and no distinct way of understanding what truly mattered to me. I had heard major influencers in my life tell me that values are vital to living a successful life, yet nobody talked about how to define one’s values and align them with one’s passions.

For the longest time, I thought that if we are to live a value-aligned life, we needed to be vegan, minimalist, yogi, health-obsessed, and travel a lot to promote a message. It was silly to think this for such a long time, right? 

As ridiculous as it sounds, I had never explored the idea of values more because I was afraid to. I was terrified that new and refined values would change me as a person, and that I might lose people or things in my life, or have even lost opportunities. I was anxious that having quality values would create a different life for me—but what I didn’t realize was that having real, tangible values would change me and mold the best version of myself that I have ever presented to the world. 

When I began to research values, I originally wanted to adopt the values that other people had, instead of curating my own. I tried being vegan for a few months because everyone else was doing it. I attempted to be a fitness enthusiast because the models on Instagram had beautiful canvases. It got to the point where I even asked my parents if I could borrow the car for a few weeks so I could go on a road trip that I hadn’t planned out. 

After my parents had declined the idea for the road trip (rightfully so), I realized that none of these things that were attempted were for me. None of these “values” had stuck with me, because I wasn’t doing them for the right reasons. These experimentations were because I was feeling pressured to be someone I was not—no, am not. I felt the pressure to have multiple values all at once, when in reality, values take time to cultivate. 

This last year has been filled with genuine, intentional research to see what my values are. It started with an idea of what I cared about. My faith, the earth, animals, and my body. The next thing I had to do was see what could be done in my personal life to ensure that I was aligning with the things that I valued and cared about. It’s that simple! I wish someone had told myself earlier on that living a value-aligned life was so much easier than I ever thought it could be. 

I may not be a wholehearted vegan, doing yoga every day, or doing everything I can to save the animals or earth. Regardless of this, I am taking steps to becoming the person I have always wanted to be and living the value-filled, value-aligned life I have always dreamed about.

October 18, 2018

Big Decision, Clear Answer

Evaluating values and finding direction will lead to better decisions.

Recently I found myself facing a dilemma. Life had thrown up a big decision and it was one of those moments that would shape everything after it. An opportunity had arisen to move to Sri Lanka for a work opportunity with my girlfriend. We had grown weary of London’s sirens, tourists, and expenses and were ready for a change.

The move to Sri Lanka had clear upsides. It would open us up to an entirely different world—access to Asia, its foods, culture, weather, people—all steeply contrasted with the London life we had become used to. The problem was that we had already decided to move to Bristol, a relatively affordable alternative to London with a hugely creative and exciting culture.

Bristol or Sri Lanka?

A sofa or wild new experiences? Jungles or waterfronts? Monkeys or squirrels?

The problem with making decisions is that before you can decide what to do at any given moment, you must clearly know your priorities. The closer you are to this source, the more accurate, straight, and true your actions will be thereafter.

In order to come to a conclusion, we began the process of examining our values. We found that we had strong desires to cultivate space for ourselves, our things, and our hobbies (for me; cooking, for her; yoga) in a less highly strung city with a slower pace of life. We dreamed of a lounge to entertain others, our own bathroom and a fridge of a decent size—all things rendered difficult in London’s restrictive housing market and our recent full-time studies.

After much deliberation, the answer was clear. Bristol was the better fit for now. The Sri Lanka opportunity dried up but this did not matter—we had challenged our trajectory and values and in the process of doing so, we had learned more securely what we wanted out of life. Of course, our priorities will change, but in the present moment, I truly believe that there is nothing more important than knowing where you want to be—and making the move.

October 11, 2018

A Minimalist Office Space

How a minimalist setup can reduce distractions, increase focus, and improve efficiency.

I have worked in public education for 18 years, and three years ago I attended a professional development event that focused on decluttering one’s office and working smarter by focusing on the most impactful things at work. Little did I realize just how transformational this would be for me personally and professionally.

One of the first things that I learned was how distracting an office, filled with clutter and personal heirlooms, could be. Besides, do you really want to emulate your home in your office? Your work environment, regardless of its shape or size, is designed for you to produce work in the most efficient way possible. Personal trinkets all over the place will not help you get your work done, but it can certainly distract you and coworkers.

As I began my journey several years ago to declutter my office and eliminate useless paperwork that I had stored digitally anyway, I heard many coworkers say that my office looked “too professional” and didn’t look “homey” at all. Regardless of the varied opinions of my office peers, I was on a mission to give this a try. Several years later, it is in a state that I would consider minimal, or rather streamlined.

My office only contains those items that I need to do my job. Many of my coworkers say my office looks like a conference room, and now I tell that that was my point all along. My office is a space where I meet with people to get essential work done, and now that it is not cluttered, I offer my space to anyone in the office that needs a private meeting space or privacy.

So how has decluttering my office and using minimalism helped? In several important ways:

  • My office is easy to clean, looks professional all the time, and can easily be used by anyone when I’m not there. My office projects the image most employers want to see for their organization.
  • My focus and efficiency has increased significantly, as I am no longer searching for one thing in a big pile of papers. I have moved my analog, paper existence, to a digital one that I have available to me anywhere I go.

Minimalism spilled over into my personal life once I saw the actual value it afforded me in my professional life.

October 4, 2018

Minimalism is an Individualistic Journey

There is diversity in minimalism in spite of the ‘perfection’ that is portrayed online.

The other day, I went to a hair salon to touch up my short pixie style and I showed the stylist a photo off Pinterest. This photo was of a young woman's feathered pixie, and I told him that I wanted it exactly like the photo.

As he was shaving down the back of my hair, he pulled out his mirror and said, “Would it be okay if we went a little shorter in the back? It's not exactly like the photo, but I think it would fit your personality better. I’ve never done anything quite like this before, and you'd be the first person I’ve ever seen with this hairstyle.”

Though hesitant, I said yes.

We continued our conversation as normal, and as the hair styling went on, we made more alterations to the photo than I ever thought possible. With clammy palms and a lot of encouragement from the hairstylist, the result was something I have genuinely never seen before but fell head over heels for. He later said to me that he appreciates me having the courage to bring in a photo yet work with him to create a product that is better than the original inspiration.

It occurred to me on the way home that this is how minimalism works as well. We so often think that our version of minimalism has to be exactly like the photos on Pinterest, the YouTubers that have white walls and a perfect kitchen, or the nomads that live out of a backpack.

Minimalism is not set in stone. If it was, then we would all be walking around in plain t-shirts with no personality diversity. It is vital that each person’s version of minimalism is different. Part of the beauty of living with less is that each person chooses different things.

We all have our own ‘why factor’, reasons and benefits for purging our lives of excess. Your version of minimalism could be appear wildly different to another’s.

Do not be afraid to have clammy palms and move forward with something that you know is different. Create something within your space and life that you have never dared to do. Dare to make a better version of minimalism than the inspiration you are gleaning from. Dare to be true to yourself.

There is no “right” way to utilise minimalism. Find what works for you, and run as far as you can with it.

September 26, 2018


The ultimate bookmark for minimalists featuring a simple list of links to all things minimal.

When we adopt the minimalism ideology, we use it primarily as a tool. A tool to rid the excess in life to make way for that which is important and for the things we value most. Minimalism not only inspires me to live more simply, it also influences my approach to design.

I wanted to create a resource that many minimalists would value—and not just the design conscious looking for a bit of inspiration, but even those looking to live a more meaningful life. I didn’t look to recreate something that already exists with a simpler approach. Instead, I realised that what I needed simply did not exist—an ever evolving list to all things minimal. I decided to create the ultimate bookmark for minimalism enthusiasts, including everything from books, bikes, clothing, furniture, to technology. All presented in a clear, well-structured, and unobtrusive categorised list of text links. Created in collaboration with web developer Manu Moreale, we launched Mnmllist

It lists only 3 items per category, but each category can be expanded to display more links if we’ve got round to adding them.

Of course, there are many blogs and resources out there dedicated to minimalism, but nothing that is open to literally anything. The site is still in its infancy, but we’re having fun curating this over time, and we invite contributions if you can think of any categories or specific links you think we should add. We hope this little Mnmllist site will become a useful resource for you. If not today, then perhaps when it’s more mature.

September 14, 2018

The Comparison Game

What happens when too much of a good thing turns sour?

My YouTube recommendations list is chalked full of videos about minimalism in all aspects—zero waste, intentional living, podcasts on the topic, and even things such as minimalist yoga.

Social media is something I don’t understand, yet am so entranced with. Without it, I personally would have never heard about minimalism or known what an impactful journey it would lead me on. The videos in my recommendation feed allow me to expand my ideas on simple living and get creative with the life I already have, which, of course, has been a good thing. But, what happens when too much of a good thing becomes a drawback?

The impact of social media on our lives is clear when doing the research—when we allow ourselves to mindlessly scroll through the media pages long enough, we begin to judge those on the media platform, their followers, and even ourselves. Though the idea of endless minimalism videos seems harmless (and some people’s dream), it can begin to have an impact on one’s thoughts as they take a deep look into their heart and possessions.

For me, almost all the people I am following on social media are minimalism enthusiasts, which has shaped the way I view my possessions and the frame of mind in which I consume now. While this has lead to the more intuitive, productive, and free person I am today, it has also caused some downfalls.

After feeding myself white walls, sand-beige furniture, and clear kitchen countertops through other people’s social media posts, I found that I looked down upon myself for owning more than I thought I needed to. I saw creators with all their possessions zipped up in a small backpack, ready to board their next flight. I thought to myself, “why am I not traveling with 45 items? I could easily do that.”

We tell our youth to be careful when consuming so much social media on a daily basis and to not compare ourselves to the people we see online. We understand that our lives are our own, and that the things we are scrolling through are merely a highlight reel.

Comparison is a silly game that we play with ourselves because we don’t fully understand the concept of another person’s life. We don’t see the behind-the-scenes of the photos we’re scrolling through, and we don’t have a single clue as to what their personal life is like. All we are seeing is what they want us to see.

Minimalism is not practical for everyone, nor is a pristine living room or traveling the world with 45 items in a backpack. The more we compare ourselves to the people around us—regardless of whether they are minimalists or not—the more unsatisfied we become with our own journey.

You are here because you are wanting to become the best version of yourself. Please do not let the comparison of others ruin the sparkle of that exciting adventure.

September 6, 2018

An Ancient Philosophy

What modern minimalists can learn from the ancient ideas of Stoicism.

For some, minimalism appears to be a relatively recent concept. Perhaps cooked up in a Scandinavian design studio or in Silicon Valley. However, minimalism actually has deep roots in schools of philosophy that are thousands of years old.

Whilst Buddhism is certainly one such source, possibly the most direct ancestor was Stoicism, an ancient Greek school of philosophy. Stoic ideas have greatly helped me refocus my ideas about the world by articulating wisdom that is true and valuable, regardless of time or culture.

One of the key foundations of the Stoics is to learn to fully appreciate the things that we already have and be truly grateful for their presence. If we learn to thoroughly value what we already own, then we will ease our desire for more.

Of course, in the modern world, full of advertising and sales, people are taught the opposite—to always want more. The problem with this is what’s known in psychology cycles as hedonic adaption. We work extremely hard to fulfill a desire, initially getting some satisfaction, but soon enough, we adapt to its presence and no longer find it as desirable as we once did. We end up caught in a loop of dissatisfaction with no expiration date.

The Stoics understood that in order to break free of this loop, they could practice negative visualization. They would imagine losing their most loved possessions. Their family, their money and their health—all lost.

Visualization of this kind can makes us bulletproof to any eventuality because, in our minds, the worst has already occurred. From then onwards, we can only see the positive actions and potential in the world. We are protected from the naive and at peace with our current situations. We can appreciate everything.

Do not indulge in dreams of having what you have not, but reckon up the chief of the blessings you do possess, and then thankfully remember how you would crave for them if they were not yours.

—Stoic Philosopher King Marcus Aurelius

August 30, 2018

Frugality and the Simpler Life

Is being frugal really necessary in order to lead a minimalist lifestyle?

When many of us hear words like simplicity and minimalism, we automatically think of frugality. Cutting back to the barest of minimums. Watching every penny. Worrying about all outgoings.

Well, my life is pretty simple, but it looks nothing like this. 

My version of living simpler doesn’t mean living frugally at all. In fact, I live a fuller life than ever. I have travelled more for pleasure in the last few years than at any other time in my life. In fact, as I write this, I have just spent the last three months travelling around Asia. 

I go to my fair share of live concerts, seeing musicians and bands that I love, and I can still be found wearing the odd designer shirt and jeans. My choice of eyewear is certainly not the cheapest spectacles I could find.

I will always take you up on the chance to try a latte at the newest coffee shop in town. 

What can I say? I like a little comfort and adventure. Does that make me a walking cliché? I don’t think so, but I’m also fine if you think it does.

Simplicity is a Gateway to Living Well

For me, embracing simplicity into my life has meant stripping away from distractions and living more intentionally. Seeking a life with more focus, clarity and meaning. Living monastically isn’t part of my remit. 

I still consume, but I’m much more careful about what I consume. In terms of material possessions, I’ve realized that I need a lot less than once thought I did. 

I’ve become more comfortable saying no and turning down requests that don’t fit with my life priorities. This is such a simple concept, yet so many of us give up our ability to say no too freely. 

None of this feels frugal. I certainly don’t feel like I’m missing out on anything—far from it. These are just intentional decisions that support me living my version of a simpler life. 

The upside for me has been more focus, more purpose and more white space in my days for adventure, or just staying still occasionally. I feel like I dictate the pace of my life more than I have in the past. 

Comparisons are a Race to the Bottom

Too many of us get caught up spending time comparing ourselves to others, rather than getting in touch with ourselves and really uncovering what it is we want most. Once we’ve uncovered this, we can take steps toward supporting it. Our actions, plans and daily tasks can align and take on new purpose. 

Ultimately, living a simple life should mean living well and without depravation. What that means for each of us will have slightly (or very) different flavors. That’s as it should be. 

Live simple certainly, but live simple your own way.

August 18, 2018

Passionate About Nothing

Not having a defined passion is not necessarily a bad thing.

Can he do it on a cold Monday night in Stoke?”

This question is one often asked in England to measure a sportsman’s passion for football (or soccer). The thinking behind it is that if a footballer puts in a positive, heart-filled performance against the hard tackling Stoke City team, they must be passionate about the sport and the jersey they represent.

But what if you aren’t that passionate about football? Or your team?

What if you aren’t that passionate about... anything?

I always see the same repeated statement when it comes to minimalism; reduce the clutter in your life and you will have more time, money and love to dedicate to your passions. The situation for me though, as a recently converted ‘minimalist’ is that I don’t have a passion to invest my new-found freedom in. Obviously, I'm passionate about family and friends. That goes without saying. But other than that, there's not an awful lot that I put real time and energy into.

I certainly have a strong interest in music, but I wouldn’t call it a passion as I’m very uncommitted and often flit between different genres. I’m a football fan, but again I wouldn’t say it’s a big passion as I can give or take going to watch games. I like wine tasting and trying different types of cheese but I’m a long way from a connoisseur. What I guess I’m trying to say is that I do have interests, but none that I have the desire to cultivate into a fully-fledged passion.

I don’t see this as a negative thing though. When I was at school, I was asked what I wanted to be when I grow up. I didn’t know then, and I still don’t know at the age of 30. That indecisiveness bugged me for years. This, coupled with the fact I tend to be quite faddy with things, gave me a concern that I would never be truly happy, in either employment or my interests.

The lesson I have taken out of minimalism is the understanding that it’s okay to be indecisive. My life is my own. Removing distractions and pacifiers such as games consoles or social media have opened my eyes to the misaligned self-assessment I was making of my life. I thought I had to have a defined passion and that I was wasting my spare time. I thought I needed to hustle and progress in my job within X amount of years. Otherwise, I would be stuck and aimless.

In reality, none of these things matters to me. The important people in my life won't judge me, and those who do judge aren't important. I can pick up and drop interests as I choose. I can follow my curiosity. I don’t have to wholeheartedly commit to any of my hobbies, and as far as my working career goes, as long as my job isn’t detrimental to my personal life, then it doesn’t matter.

I STILL don’t know what I want to become. I’ve stopped feeling guilty about this. I don’t go out running in all weathers or force myself to play the guitar. I am ok with that.

Coasting along in a job isn’t necessarily a bad thing if you don’t know what you want to do differently. Neither is a lack of clearly defined passions. If you are happy and content with life as it is, don’t try and change it to keep up with other people’s experiences or expectations. Live yourself.